One of the best things about being a dad is hearing my son say his name. I ask him nearly everyday just to hear his tiny little voice reply “my name ish Bookwin Conami ” (Brooklyn Komene). It gets me right in the feels like I’ve truly accomplished something by having a son to carry on my father’s name.
So I make the most of every moment I spend with him you see he’s only 4yrs old and I wasn’t really around during the first 10 months of his life. Not in the way you might think, let me explain.
I’ve been working on passion projects for the last 5-7 yrs which took up a lot of my time. I would spend countless hours in front of my computer learning, designing, breaking & fixing software to accomplish my goal of building a Facebook Like button for the shopping mall. (Read more about it here)
So while my son was in the most important stages of development I was typically in my home office coding stuff and although I was ‘physically’ there I wasn’t there for him emotionally (much) as my mind was always on other things and I kept telling myself I would not make any excuses for not doing my ‘work’.
What I wasn’t aware of back then, that I am now, is that I was so caught up in ‘what’ I was doing that I lost sight of ‘why’ I was doing it leading to much confusion and being mentally exhausted. I had no real direction and my mind was on other things instead of appreciating the time I spent with my son.
” everything I do, every day for the rest of my life “
But now things are different, this year I discovered my purpose which is to help people by sharing the knowledge I have accumulated. Learning this made things so much easier because I only do the tasks that are in line with my purpose resulting in less things to do and more time to focus on my family.
I am no longer concerned of where my focus should be because everything I do, every day for the rest of my life is my focus and that gives me peace of mind and faith that I am doing the right thing by everyone especially myself.